Well, where do I start?
So I met my partner who at the time was going through a seperation. He didn't tell me really why....anyway, we were on and off for a while until one day his apparent ex contacted me out of the blue. She said they had been dating hence why I don't hear from him every three months. He had been using me when she threw him out. He stole money from me, then abused me in the car and didn't hear from him again for another 3 months. Because he was coming off drugs, I was trying to be understanding as I know how it affects people and their behaviour. I got him off them and we actually made a proper go at it.
We went out for drinks one night and he started acting an idiot. The cops came and he ran away leaving me in a town I didn't know so the bar girl put me up for the night. However, I should have known this was going to be bad....I went back to collect my car and he was waiting for me. He had kicked in the side of my car and laughed telling me to get inside the car. I shouldn't, because he yanked my hair on numerous occasions, he pinched my legs while driving on the free way, and he even rammed my head between the seat and windows of the car. Made my nose bleed. I was bruised. Red marks. Head felt it was on fire from being beat in the car. I was blamed because apparently I was a sl/% and sucking c&*^ all night when in actual fact a woman let me stay at her place because the cops advised me to do this. I should have left him that day. Instead, I ran a bath and went to sleep. He came in, swore he would never hurt me again and caressing the bruises and what he had done to me. Stupid me! Since then, there has been many occasions when he has bashed me, tried to suffocate me, I even think he wanted to kill me. These were all alcohol related incidents.
He hasn't drank in 7 months now, but can't understand that I put an intervention on him...but I did it to stop the abuse...he just sees it that I went against him. I did it to protect myself and it has worked.
Let's see what happens now but i feel we will eventually break up because I have finally stood up to him...he wants someone who will hamper to his every wish and command and accept punishment, but that's not me! No sir.
He knows, one more time and I am gone.