Hi Kelly, I am Cheryl Wozny, the current author of the Verbal Abuse in Relationships blog. Thank you for your comment. I find that intriguing that our body and mind will often make subconscious choices without us realizing it until later. I know for myself I ended up with romantic partners that reminded me of my abusive father until I learned how to break the cycle. Your take on this situation could help others realize a harmful dynamic. Please feel free to continue to share things you've learned with our community.